Steve and Patty’s story
Patty and I used to have conversations.
She loved children and loved to cook, and talked about both. I also
remember her homemade spaghetti sauce—she was quite the cook.
enjoyed a good life together.
find ourselves in a new season of life.
Patty was diagnosed with Frontal Temporal Lobe Dementia and Alzheimer’s
in 2007. Many caregivers who understand this neurological disease know how hard
it is to watch the rapid personality changes that go with it.
knew that would happen, I didn’t expect it to happen so quickly.
is—we have no control over these situations. So I learned to adapt to the
changes and accept them—as hard as it was.
tell you—it’s not easy preparing for the day when your partner no longer
communicates with you the way they used to.
All I can do now is hang onto the clutch of cherished memories we
decline grew more evident, she stopped walking and eventually stopped feeding
herself. Now she eats like a bird—one
tablespoon at a time. Sometimes she
forgets to swallow, so I remind her.
starts around 7:15 a.m. Patty enjoys
blended apples and pears. Or chocolate
soy milk with blended bananas.
two caregivers help out because I still work and travel. They provide care when
I’m away, but also on a limited basis when I’m home.
has a special connection with Teresa, her primary caregiver. No doubt, the two share a bond. People who
visit the house notice it right away.
When Teresa arrives, Patty can’t take her eyes off Teresa; tracking her
there and observe Patty’s eyes following Teresa around the room is quite a
sight to see. It’s as if Patty couldn’t
bear to lose sight of Teresa—not for one second.
very special to us because she’s made personal sacrifices that have allowed her
to care for Patty.
nurses over the years, I eventually discovered Sage Products. Since hospitals use the product. My
favorite product is the soft foam toothbrush—known as the Toothette® Plus
I like how
these foam swabs are so gentle on Patty’s mouth. I don’t worry about damaging
her gums. Using the Toothette® Plus
Swabs helps keep my wife comfortable.
Sage must be a trusted brand. Once we started using the swabs, it
became clear why hospitals use them too.